|Mare Island - 020413|
One of friends who is now looking for colleges had a very endearing and easily understood experience when she was four years old. It happened when we watched Shrek together. There is a scene where Shrek is really mean to Donkey and yells at him to send him away. My little friend crawled into my lap and said to me, "Not liking!" and turned her head to avoid seeing the sad scene in the movie. I had to agree, "not liking".
Over the past few weeks I've seen a couple of other friends that were friends before I met them are falling out. It has probably been brewing for awhile. It hurts since they once shared a deep connection and both respect and affection for each other. Now their relationship feels poisoned. Their growing split is getting harder to witness. Not liking.
Many of my friendships in my life faded away over the last few decades. Facebook has helped a few of us reconnect, but that is a rarity. I understand when friendships slowly flow apart since we all develop separate lives that slowly erode the commonalities we once shared.
It is really sad though to lose friendships over hard feelings and misunderstandings. I've regrettably been part of those splits and witnessed a few as well. Sadly, this is part is life I guess. During my witnessing this recent break, I know that my role is probably best to stay to the side and try to love and support them both. For now though, I want to look away and say, "Not liking."